The holiday season is in full swing and before you start fulfilling everything on your children’s lists, we think it is a great idea to consider the types and quantity of gifts that you give. It is no coincidence that there has been a huge following for Marie Kondo’s KonMari method and reconsidering the material things that take up so much space in our lives. There is an abundance of research to back up this method and many others that support the idea that “less is more.”
We understand that it is really challenging to balance the amount of material things our children accumulate. It’s hard not to give them everything they want. It is also a challenge when we don’t have control over what other people buy our children. But it is our duty to do what is BEST for children. Research shows that having fewer toys can lead children to focus and engage in more creative and imaginative play. When we oversaturate our children, they end up moving from one activity to the other more frequently which does not allow them to develop focus, or appreciation for their things. When children have less, they learn to appreciate and care for what they have.
Joshua Becker is the author of Clutterfree with Kids and he offers some great tips to manage your child’s materials all year long. In his book, he addresses the 10 most common clutter problems for parents.
For now, we wanted to give some tips to consider during the holiday season:
The 4-Gift Rule
A wonderful trend we have seen going around is parents following the 4-gift rule: something they want, something they need, something to wear, and something to read.
Donate Used Toys
The holidays are a great time of year for children to go through their toys and donate toys they no longer play with. Doing this will make room for new toys that are gifted during the holiday season and teaches children the joy of giving to others. Some families even place crates of toys under their Christmas for Santa to pick up on Christmas Eve.
Gift Experiences Rather than Toys
Experiences with loved ones are often something that children will remember when they grow up. Gifting a play, musical production, lessons, or activity to children are a few ideas for larger gifts. For family members you can suggest they opt for an activity with your child instead. Movies, ice cream dates, or a museum are all fun activities that children will remember way more than a toy.
Set Boundaries with Family Members
It’s okay to set limits with family members or friends that tend to buy your children a lot of material gifts. You get to set the rules for your child, and after you express your wishes and reasons for it, most people are going to understand and accept your boundaries.
The holidays should be more about making memories and traditions with your family and less about so many material things. Of course we aren’t suggesting no gifts whatsoever, we don’t want our children to feel deprived. We just suggest that gifts are not the focus of the season. It is also important to understand the research behind development and being oversaturated with material items. Be mindful with your gift giving practice and model for your children the happiness that comes simply by spending time with loved ones and giving to others.